We all suffer from feeling uncomfortable in our own skin at times. Or that we suddenly doubt our actions and abilities. And that causes uncertainty. How to get rid of that insecurity? Let’s take a look at the following steps!
- Stop judging yourself
Feeling insecure is tough, and beating yourself up for having those emotions in the first place won’t do you any good. I therefore recommend dropping self-judgment as a starting point. Accept the fact that you feel insecure about something and instead focus on working to change it. A little self-love can go a long way.
2. Be your own friend
One cognitive-behavioral technique is saying things to yourself that your best friend (or someone else who really loves you) would say to you if you’re seriously doubting yourself. For example, if you’re applying for a new job, instead of telling yourself that you’ll never get it or that you don’t have enough experience, think about what your best friend would say to encourage you.
3. Baby steps
Overcoming uncertainty is a journey, and it doesn’t happen overnight. You can make progress simply by taking small steps to build your confidence and push yourself out of your comfort zone in ways where the stakes aren’t as high. If social insecurities are your struggle, start by simply saying hello to someone new or talking to just one person at a party. It’s those small steps that ultimately give you the confidence to do the bigger, scarier things.
4. Cut out people
Notice who’s feeding your insecurity and who’s defending you. So if you have a friend who always puts you down, maybe it’s time to distance yourself from him/her. If you need advice and support, go to the people who always encourage you and genuinely want to see you win.
5. Body language
Insecurity can also manifest itself physically, such as standing or sitting wrinkled. When a person takes this kind of position, it sends a message to others. They try to be subconsciously small, and may not even be aware of it. Just sitting and standing tall and strong can make you feel more confident, because physical can inform the mindset.
Emotional freedom technique, also known as tapping, is a powerful tool for breaking through insecurity. The healing modality, a combination of ancient Chinese acupressure and positive psychology, helps to reprogram limiting beliefs that make you feel trapped by literally tapping meridian points on your face and body.
7. Celebrate wins
When you overcome an uncertainty, make sure you acknowledge it. Whether you opened your mouth at work or expressed your truth to your partner, make sure to celebrate even the smallest things you’ve done to empower yourself and crush insecurity completely. This creates momentum and boosts your confidence like crazy.
8. Give yourself compliments
When you’re knee-deep in a puddle of uncertainty, it’s easy to forget how great you are. That’s why I recommend keeping a list of all the compliments you’ve ever received from people. It’s really helpful to take stock of the things you’re good at and the qualities you have. Spend time focusing on what makes you special and keep those high-vibe thoughts at the forefront of your mind.
9. Change your story
Are those negative thoughts constantly looping in your head? Stop them, stat. Change the story you tell yourself. Often, that inner critical voice isn’t even ours. Maybe it’s something we learned from society or our parents when we were growing up. Being aware of our thoughts, no matter where they come from, is the first step to detaching ourselves from them and creating space to tell ourselves a new, more powerful story.
10. Contact an expert
If your insecurity is an ongoing problem that’s really taking its toll on your life, I recommend seeing a therapist or coach to help you explore your fears and insecurities.
Love, Deem/Skye Lewis ❤
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